I had just finished a coffee break with Eugene at Armara Food Court and as we reached the ground level, we stopped at the open space sales where they were selling some Christian books. As usual, I will stop by to do some browsing. Trust me, to begin with, I was never really a book lover neither was I a reader. Eugene once told me this, that a Leader is a Reader. I have not forgotten that sentence which he had made since then and I began to start reading newspaper everyday and keeping myself well informed of what is happening in our world today.
For the instance when I was browsing through the books, I thought why not get some books that will help me be a better husband. Everyday whether we realised or not, we are somewhat investing in somethings. All these investment ranges from the food we eat, the clothes we wear, the stuff we buy. I was thinking so why not invest in my marriage. Many a times we spent our money, time and effort investing in buying things for our spouse, bringing them for a good meal, going on overseas trips together. Of course all these are good. But nothing beats the investment of being a better husband to my wife. I'm very determined to make our marriage a heaven on Earth. A woman looks the most stunning and gorgeous when she's in love. Marriage is never the graveyard of love. To me, it's the beginning of something even more beautiful and the start of a lifetime journey of fun and excitment.
Back to the book store, this book titled "Boundaries In Marriage" (By Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend) caught my eyes and without any hesitation I bought it and WOW!!! It's a super solid book and it really addresses some issues that Stephanie and myself are facing as a newly married couple. Here's some insight....
- Some people are against boundaries because they see them as selfish; other actually use them to be selfish. Both are wrong. Boundaries are basically self-control.
- Self Control/ boundery serves love, not selfishness
- Bounderies are not something you set on another person. Bounderies are about self.
- We don't define bounderies to punish our spouse.
- When bounderies are defined, we know who is responsible for what. We are responsible for our feelings, attitudes, behaviours, choices, limits, desires, thoughts, values, talents and love.
- Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating. Love creates more freedom that leads to more responsibility, which leads to more and more ability to love.
I'm filled with excitment as I'm reading through this book because I'm excited and really looking forwards to bringing our marriage to even greater heights.
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